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You Never Can Tell

 Here in the Trenches, we say "You never can tell," an awful lot. You never can tell what piece paper may be most important.  You never can tell if that mild mannered person harbors an exciting alter life.  You certainly never can tell what a judge might do, or what testimony or piece of evidence they find most important.  Yup, here in the Trenches, you never can tell. You also never can tell when a seed you've planted will take root.  If you read my old blog, amazingly called "Family Law - Life in the Trenches (note the hyphen),"  you know that I am a big proponent of alternate ways of resolving disputes, like mediation and collaborative practice.  I even teach collaborative practice to other professionals and at law school.   I talk about mediation and collaboration all the time, especially collaborative practice.  Did I mention that it is all the time?  One of my friends has been subjected to more explanations of collaborative pr...

Count Your Blessings (Instead of Sheep)

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  2024 was a tough year.  It felt like change was in the air - for everyone but me.  I had colleagues become judges and magistrates. I had colleagues close up their solo practices and opt for an easier life as part of someone else’s firm.  I had colleagues go back to school to learn a new profession.  Daughter earned her Master’s degree and moved with her boyfriend to Maryland.  #1 Son earned his National Teaching Certification.  My life stayed the same.  I wasn’t working in the office as much since COVID, so I worked from home.  I didn’t see Intrepid Assistant very often because she and I were both working from home.  When I went to the office, the cul-de-sac was a ghost town because folks retired or moved.  I was primed for a humdinger of a pity party.  I can be a really good pity party planner.  Then……I decided that pity parties are only good when they’re short.  So, for the first time in about 6 years, I baked som...